There is life after an abusive relationship. It is possible to regain your self-esteem and dignity and move on to a better life -- there is always a way. First, XXXX, you have to really really want to change and end your abusive relationship with your husband. Statistics show that it usually takes a woman at least four times of leaving her abusive partner before she is able to stay gone. Every day women who are in worse situations than yours are leaving their abusers and starting new lives. No is not always easy. But it is always possible.

One of the things that an abuser does is isolate the victim so that she has no friends or family that she can reach out to in a time of need. It sounds like your husband has been successful at this. Please think really really really really hard of a friend or relative who might open their doors to you. Don't worry about being in their way. Better to be in their way and let them talk about you than stay in a relationship where the life is being sucked out of you.

Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline and find out what services are available in your local area. Shelters and domestic violence awareness programs have lost a lot of funding over the last few years. So a bit of patience and persistence might go a long way?

I don't know where you live. However, I do know there are a lot of adults --working people -- who are trying to take care of an elderly parent at home. Perhaps you can exchange a room in their home and offer to take care of or sit with their elderly or disabled parent when they are away from home. Many people have fallen on hard times. Depending on the area you live in, paying someone $200 - $300 a month for a spare room that they never used is not unheard of.

Let's get creative XXXX! You can do this. Start by listening to all the free audios and videos on the site that will tell you how wonderful and powerful you are. Change the self talk tape in your head from “stuck” to "I'm going to be free". XXXX, you have forgotten that you are a manifestation of God. Isn't it written somewhere, “The works that I do, ye also shall do--even greater”. You have forgotten about your innate wisdom and the power of the mind. In your post, you stated many reasons why you are "stuck". On a sheet of paper write this:  act as if you're writing a movie script or a new novel and you've come to the part where you have to describe how the heroine, XXXX XXXX, leaves her abuser and an unhappy life and re-creates herself looking good and feeling joyful.